What to Do When You've Broken Your No-Buy
Every now and then I see people posting their hauls on Instagram with the caption "Broke my no.buy :(" or something similar. A lot of people struggle with their no-buys, which is very understandable. It is extremely difficult to go cold turkey when you've been indulging yourself for years. If you want to know my tips and tricks of staying on a no-buy you should read my blog again in a few days, I'm going to publish a post on how to succeed with your no-buy later this week, but today I'm going to help you with all those overwhelming feelings you're feeling when you realize you've broken your no-buy.
Okay, so you've broken your no-buy. You've bought something you don't need in store or placed an order online. The first thing you should consider is cancelling your order or returning it. If you do that, you've won. You have no longer broken your no-buy and there is nothing to feel guilty about anymore. You should just be proud of yourself for being strong enough to cancel/return the order.
If cancelling or returning your order isn't an option anymore, you're now faced with products that make you feel guilty. The the first thing you should do about that is to accept the situation. You have broken your no-buy, but that does not mean you should give up. Instead, either give them to friend or family member (if you really just want to get rid of them) or add these products to your collection and try to love them just as much as every other piece. There is nothing you can do about having bought the products so not giving them to someone else or using them yourself because you feel guilty and want to punish yourself is just harmful and does no one any good. I know it might be difficult to love these products at first, but try seeing your products with the same eyes as you did when you bought them.
And now to the most important part. You have now gone through a situation that made you buy makeup/skincare/something else even though you've told yourself not to. What triggered you? Was it seeing someone post about a certain product? Someone mentioning a sale? Watching a haul video on youtube? Was it a stressful day? Did something happen and you used shopping as a distraction? Try to identify all possible triggers, write them down and create (or update) a game plan for the next time something like this happens. Write down things to do instead of shopping for makeup. If the triggers are things like stress, depression, anxiety and other mental struggles, try to find other activities that calm you down and distracts you. Maybe you could play with your existing makeup stash or do something else creative? If your triggers are seeing sales, you should probably unfollow all brands on social media and unsubscribe from all mailing lists, maybe even unfollow the people who post a lot of hauls on social media. And if the trigger is physically being in the store - don't go. If you do have to go to the store because you need to buy a replacement, make sure you have a plan on exactly what's going to go down while in store and stick to it. Fetch the product, go to the checkout and then leave immediately.
The most important thing is that you do not give up. Shopping addiction is an addiction like any other and you will relapse. In time you won't relapse as often and that's the goal. Don't be too hard on yourself and celebrate the small victories. I also want you to remember that it is never any shame in seeking professional help if you think you'd benefit from it. Take care <3
Okay, so you've broken your no-buy. You've bought something you don't need in store or placed an order online. The first thing you should consider is cancelling your order or returning it. If you do that, you've won. You have no longer broken your no-buy and there is nothing to feel guilty about anymore. You should just be proud of yourself for being strong enough to cancel/return the order.
If cancelling or returning your order isn't an option anymore, you're now faced with products that make you feel guilty. The the first thing you should do about that is to accept the situation. You have broken your no-buy, but that does not mean you should give up. Instead, either give them to friend or family member (if you really just want to get rid of them) or add these products to your collection and try to love them just as much as every other piece. There is nothing you can do about having bought the products so not giving them to someone else or using them yourself because you feel guilty and want to punish yourself is just harmful and does no one any good. I know it might be difficult to love these products at first, but try seeing your products with the same eyes as you did when you bought them.
And now to the most important part. You have now gone through a situation that made you buy makeup/skincare/something else even though you've told yourself not to. What triggered you? Was it seeing someone post about a certain product? Someone mentioning a sale? Watching a haul video on youtube? Was it a stressful day? Did something happen and you used shopping as a distraction? Try to identify all possible triggers, write them down and create (or update) a game plan for the next time something like this happens. Write down things to do instead of shopping for makeup. If the triggers are things like stress, depression, anxiety and other mental struggles, try to find other activities that calm you down and distracts you. Maybe you could play with your existing makeup stash or do something else creative? If your triggers are seeing sales, you should probably unfollow all brands on social media and unsubscribe from all mailing lists, maybe even unfollow the people who post a lot of hauls on social media. And if the trigger is physically being in the store - don't go. If you do have to go to the store because you need to buy a replacement, make sure you have a plan on exactly what's going to go down while in store and stick to it. Fetch the product, go to the checkout and then leave immediately.
The most important thing is that you do not give up. Shopping addiction is an addiction like any other and you will relapse. In time you won't relapse as often and that's the goal. Don't be too hard on yourself and celebrate the small victories. I also want you to remember that it is never any shame in seeking professional help if you think you'd benefit from it. Take care <3
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